We two are good at working things out.
So mommy told us when we had a fight, after listening to both sides of the story, and left us to talk things through with each other.
posted by Liz Coppock @ 2:51 PM
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Wednesday, February 20, 2008
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Yes. I tried a technique I learned from "Siblings Without Rivalry." At first I had to go through the steps by rote. Listen. Reflect back. Listen to the other side. Reflect back. Make some general statement of values related to the situation. Suggest that the two parties are good at coming up with solutions. Then leave.
It worked like a charm the first time, and the second time, too, which was months later. The third time, no sooner had I said "So you feel..." (doing the reflecting back) that you said "I know, Mom, we're SOO good at working things out." You were what, eight? I felt pretty stupid that you could see through me so well after only two tries at the technique, but I can't complain. You two stopped the incredible fighting that had started and were sweet to each other for years and years.
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